I am a lazy, preoccupied lady, and thus, I haven’t responded to several questions that have been asked of me in the comment section. Of course, it’s also the fact that I’ve been forgetful lately, too. I mean to write an email, but forget about 2 minutes after the thought crosses my mind. So if the opportunity doesn’t instantly present itself to complete a task, it may be hours or days (or never) before it gets done.
–Are the boys identical?
Highly doubtful. They look very different– He.nry is fair-skinned and fair-haired, with wide-set eyes that grow increasingly blue by the day. He is also our little chunk-chunk, dense and round, with a head not unlike his father’s (giant, because of the giant brain, right?). Jac.k is a little darker in skin tone (still fair but with an olive undertone) with dark brown hair. His eyes are getting greyer by the day, but it’s uncertain where they will end up, color-wise. He is long and thin– a little longer than his brother, but weighs a pound less–, though his face is finally filling out a little.
Personality-wise (in so much as there is personality at this point), Ja.ck seems to be a fretter, constantly in a state of readiness to get upset about the slightest thing, but only getting truly hysterical when he is ignored (bad Mama peeing in the toilet in the next room instead of wearing adult diapers so she NEVER LEAVES MY SIDE…). Henr.y, on the other hand, is fairly calm, occasionally having screaming fits prompted, one can only guess, by a change in the music of the spheres. Seriously, kid is smiling, then SCREAAAAAAAAMS, and then goes right back to smiling.
So yeah. Probably not identical.
–What is the awesome swing you have?
This is it. I got it because it is supposed to have a great battery life. In retrospect, I would have instead registered for two small travel swings, I think, but this is nice to have none the less. It’s very soft and squishy-comfy, which probably appeals to me more than the boys, but maybe they like it, too. Who knows? It honestly doesn’t get much use now because it’s huge and the only place there’s room for it is in the playroom, and our life right now is spent mostly camped in our bed, or out and about.
–What is the breastfeeding pillow you mentioned?
The EZ 2 Nurse Twins nursing pillow (um, this one…). It’s a giant, firm, horseshoe-shaped cushion that holds the babies at boob-level when rested on your lap. The fabrics in which the pillow is currently available appear to have been chosen by Michelle Duggar (which is fine… nothing wrong with Mrs. Duggar, but her taste in fabrics is probably different than mine…), but since this is a nursing pillow, it’s not like you’re going to be wearing it on the streets of Milan, being judged by the world’s fashionistas. More likely (if your experience is like mine) it will quickly be covered by breast milk (both straight from the boob AND in various stages of digestion from the babies’ mouths), pee, sweat (MAN, it’s been so frickin’ hot and humid lately…), possibly some poo, and drips and drops of whatever food or drink you have time to cram into your mouth in those precious moments when they’re both occupied and not wailing. Thank goodness the covers are washable…
But yes. Indispensable in my efforts to tandem breast feed the boys.
Just a break here to ask why, if NC’s state lottery is (like many other state lotteries) set up to benefit the education system, WHY is there any sort of financial crisis in the school system? I mean, I know it’s a total joke that lotteries ever actually benefit schools as they say they will when they are set up (great way to get voter support for what amounts to a tax on the mathmatically-challenged), but during a time when the economy is in such a state that we can’t afford to keep the teachers we have, why aren’t the lottery proceeds making up that difference?
–Why don’t you use formula to supplement?
Um, here is where I have to sheepishly admit a few things:
1. I kinda do use formula already. Right now, that has only been in situations where I cannot nurse both at the same time, like when we’re out at a restaurant, and they both get suddenly, screamingly hungry. I am a rock star at times, but I cannot tandem nurse twins in public yet.
And on occasion (maybe 2-3 times so far) when I am at my wits end, and have been nursing the babies non-stop for hours on end with only occasional 10-15 minute breaks, I pass off whichever is the most starving baby to H so that he can feed him a bottle of formula.
See, I don’t really subscribe to the idea that formula is tantamount to poison, nor do I think that formula is some slippery slope that leads to instantaneous weaning from lack of supply. I also don’t think that formula is particularly convenient (I hate washing dishes, and bottles, with all their annoying little parts, are particularly irritating). But I do still think that breast milk is best, and if I can give it to them, I prefer to choose breast milk over formula. BUT when I don’t have enough expressed breast milk to give in whatever circumstance, I see nothing wrong with giving formula. And I may pick a feeding to be done by H (with whatever expressed milk we have on hand OR formula, though with the feeding schedule we’re on, there won’t be much more expressed breast milk because there is simply no time to pump, nor any milk left after so rigorous a schedule) so that my nipples can have some time off to heal a little.
2. Here is where I also admit that the only time of day when they don’t eat once an hour is overnight. They (blessedly) will usually go two hours between feedings with the occasional three hour stretch (and once, the other night, we had a FOUR hour stretch, though we paid for it the rest of the night with those once-an-hour feedings…). So, despite being torn apart during the day, I do, actually, get some rest overnight. I’m no Sleeping Beauty, but I cumulatively get about 6-7 hours a night, which is enough to keep me going through the crazy days.
Speaking of, how does one go about getting babies to sleep someplace besides on my lap? Night time is good– we’ve got the co-sleeping situation figured out–, but during the day, they fall asleep being held (or against me on the nursing pillow), and will sleep for a few minutes once put down, but inevitably wake up screaming until they are held and/or fed again.
The every-hour thing has made it incredibly difficult to leave the house, but regardless, we will be all leaving the house tomorrow morning so that I can go to my six-week follow up OB appointment, at which point I will hopefully be cleared to return to normal activities. I know my libido’s supposed to be in the toilet these days, but that is not the case. I’m supposed to be all pissy with my husband ((and at points, I am, as as he with me), but I’m really not. I have been really craving physical affection from him, and those moments are, sadly, few and far between. I don’t just mean the chance to get jiggy with it, but more just the chance to hug, or kiss, or just hold each other’s hand, etc. But yes, being given clearance to recommence the deed (doesn’t Dooce have a post about that?) will be nice. And I also really can’t wait to be given the clearance to run again. I’ll be basically starting almost from scratch again, I know (hello, Couch To 5k Program! It’s been a while, no?), but I’m ready to start again. Who knows when I’ll find the time, but since it’s my main form of stress relief, it is SO needed right now.
We will also all leave the house again on Friday morning to go to Book Babies at our local library (thanks, Serah, for the suggestion. Brilliant idea.). I don’t think the boys will get much out of it, but it will be nice to have some sort of activity beyond sucking on my boobs for them to try.
Um, does anyone have advice on how to care for cloth diapers? I’ve looked at plenty of websites, and they have conflicting advice on how to wash, etc. I don’t know if I’m using the right detergent, or whether I’m drying them wrong, or whatever, but the boys are finally getting big enough to use cloth on a regular basis, and so we are almost completely switched off of disposables, and I’d like to get in the habit of caring for the diapers in the right way.
Last, since I know this is the real reason you all stop by:
More can be seen in the Flickr set, J.ack and H.enry.
Um, okay. I think that’s all they’ll give me time for today. Apparently even the boob can get boring eventually…