So, I think I should revise my question regarding naps. At this age (7 weeks yesterday), should I expect them to be napping at all? They catnap on my lap after breast feeding, maybe 15-20 minutes, but there is not a single point during the day when they sleep for longer than 30 minutes, and they don’t sleep anywhere but on me, or in my arms, and even that, they don’t do very often. Which prompts the next question: at this age, is it unreasonable to expect to occasionally be able to put the boys in a chair or swing or on the bed next to me for a few minutes without stiff-bodied, full-rage, real-tears-flowing screams? I spent a lot of time babysitting (and a summer working at a day care center), and I just don’t remember the children I cared for freaking out because they aren’t being held. But maybe it’s an age thing. Maybe I’m unreasonable to expect anything different. However, it is the exception, not the norm, that they are awake, alert and NOT screaming (unless they’re eating).
All of that makes it sound like I’m miserable. And yeah. The constant hold-me-or-I’ll-scream thing isn’t fun at all, but truthfully, I think I take it all in stride. I like taking care of them, and I like that they are calmed by being close to me. I wish there was less screaming and more sleeping, but this is such a brief period in time (hopefully!), I can’t really complain too much.
In news about the boys, they had measurements taken at their appointment earlier this week. Both boys are in the bottom 25% (Jac.k in the bottom 10th), which is weird considering that they were born at average weights/length. I think this is partially because they were measured at 6-ish weeks and compared on a two-month scale, so they were two to three weeks shy of where other babies would have been on that two month scale (if that makes sense…). However, at Book Babies last week, I was absolutely shocked at the size of many of the babies there. I mean, I know babies are supposed to be all roly-poly, squishy fat, but these babies looked crazy-huge to me. I was a giant baby, off the charts (I weighed 10 lbs 9 oz at birth) and I stayed that way throughout childhood. And I have pictures of myself at 7, 8, 9 months, and I look scrawny in relation to the comparably-aged babies we saw at Book Babies. So, are babies just really big now? Is that why my boys are considered so small, because at just shy of two months, they should already be well on their way to total lardassitude? FWIW, Hen.ry weighed in at 10 lb 2 oz, and Jac.k at 9 lb 3 oz, so a gain of over two lbs each since birth. I know some babies arev just smaller, but these boys just don’t seem all that small.
The boys are starting to notice each other more, especially while nursing. They stare really hard at each other, like they’re wondering who’s encroaching on their boob territory. It’s hilarious. And He.nry is especially handsy, and packs quite the whallop. He’s got deadly aim, too, so when he’s done beating the boob, I have to watch him carefully because he’ll (accidentally, I hope!) smack J.ack in the face! Of course, Jac.k doesn’t seem to care too much, only occasionally raising a hand in protest or grunting his disapproval. But then again, not much distracts Jac.k from his meal. The kid is serious about eating!
Ja.ck also discovered his toes last night. He’d noticed them before, but last night, he bent himself in half while sitting on my lap in an effort to get his mouth around his toes! Such a weirdo… Oh, well. It entertained him for a good ten minutes or so!
Lastly, I am trying to convince H that we should drive back to Texas for Christmas this year. And I admit that I am daunted by the idea of driving that far, traveling that long, etc., but I really, really, really, REALLY want to go home for the holidays. Really. So, benefits of driving are that we can pack more stuff (and with twins, it seems that there is always the need for more stuff…), and there isn’t the intense crazy stress of trying to navigate airports, or having to worry about having transportation once we get there. But driving takes forever (20-ish hours, pre-kids), and while there isn’t the intense stress of air travel, there is the lingering, low-level stress of driving (and driving and driving and driving). Expense-wise, it’s probably about the same to pay for two plane tickets and baggage fees (compared to gas and two nights hotel each way), but if we were to rent a car while home, that’s another major expense to consider. I don’t know. For those who have traveled with infants (especially twins, but I welcome any advice!), would you drive or fly? Or am I crazy to even consider making the trip at all? They will be about six months old in December, if that matters.
Sigh. It’s such a trip sometimes being a mother. Surreal, I think. It’s weird knowing in advance how very different life will be once you have babies, but having no real idea exactly how different every aspect of life is until you’re in the middle of it. Sigh.